Building the Perfect Honeymoon Itinerary
I always chuckle a little bit when I see a sales pitch for the “perfect honeymoon.” The perfect honeymoon is not a package you can buy; it’s an itinerary designed to meet the objectives and lifestyles of the couple. The perfect honeymoon is subjective.
Many of the conflicts that arise on vacations center around the differences in individual expectations regarding time, money, and activities.
People are different on vacation than how they are day-to-day. I’ll cook dinner most nights of the week, but when I am on vacation, the only thing I want to do in the kitchen is open the fridge to grab another bottle of rose’. Building the perfect itinerary means you need to understand a little bit about what I call your “vacation persona.” And not just yours, your partner too. This will require a little self-reflection, conversation and possibly some detective work if you have never traveled with your partner before. However, once you understand this recipe, you are guaranteed a lifetime of blissful vacations (more or less).
Understanding your vacation persona
Many of the conflicts that arise when traveling center around differences in individual expectations regarding time, money, and activities. To build the perfect honeymoon you need to understand three things about you and your partner:
- Your vacation approach to time
- Your vacation approach to money
- The types of activities you would enjoy together on the trip
Take a look at the charts below and identify which buckets you and your partner may fit into. Keep in mind that this is not meant to be an exhaustive list, nor does it mean that all trips are created equal. How you approach time and money will vary depending on the trip, the location, and what is going on in your life at the time.
What describes your approach to time when you are on vacation? If you are not sure about what type of person you or your partner is in “vacation mode” think about how you are on the weekends. What’s your schedule like? Do you have a schedule? Do you have a routine?
What are your big spends when you are on vacation? If you are unsure look at the photos on your phone from your last trip. Did you take more pictures of food? Scenery? Your fancy hotel room? The camera roll never lies.
You want to find the sweet spot that complements the experience you defined in the First Rule of Honeymoon Planning.
This is very unsexy stuff, people. There is nothing fun about asking your partner’s approach to money on vacation, but you gotta do it. Better to find out now, that your partner prefers modest accommodations and fancy dinners than blowing your budget on five-star hotels where you have to eat at fast food.
In the next section, we will use all of this to build a rocking itinerary (or some rocking notes that you can give to your travel agent who will build you the perfect itinerary).
This is very unsexy stuff, people. Especially if you have never traveled together before, there is nothing fun about asking your partner’s approach to money on vacation, but you gotta do it. Better to find out now, that your partner prefers modest accommodations and fancy dinners than blowing your budget on five-star hotels where you have to eat at fast food.
Use this information to select where you want to say, what activities you want to do, and how much you want to spend on your honeymoon vacation.